First Secret: The Pubic Coccyx
The first and most important thing to learn is how to strengthen your pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle) or love muscle. This muscle is the major muscle of contraction in male and female. Strengthening the PC muscle helps to strengthen your erection and increase the sensations of your climax, which is very important in older years.
The PC muscle extends from the base of the spine, where it is connected to the coccyx, to the front of the body where it is connected to the pubic bone. Just as you can tense and release your fist or tense and release your shoulders, you can tense and release the PC muscle. This will exercise the muscle that can increase your and your partners pleasure.
It is the PC muscle you use to cut off urination. The next time you urinate, try to stop the flow in midstream to get a feeling of activating the PC muscle only. At first you may need to tighten the whole pelvic floor which includes the anus muscle and perhaps the lower abdominal muscles.
Some men may need to tense the whole upper body to pull up the PC muscle. See if you can locate the PC muscle. Flex it, even if your whole body tightens. Just as you isolated the muscle in the biceps from the fist, you can totally relax your upper body and still tense the pelvic floor.
Later in your own private space, while you are standing in front of a mirror, continually draw up and release this PC muscle as if you are holding back urination. You will notice that you can make the move up and down as you tighten and release this muscle. If you can do this, then you know you are exercising the right muscle.
A satisfying relationship is important for any healthy, active couple. Therefore premature ejaculation can greatly impact on relationships on both physical and emotional levels, leading to dissatisfaction, disappointment and other problems. Men often find it difficult to talk about their s problems and may delay seeking help. Instead they start avoiding and become distant from their partners for fear of embarrassment or feelings of failure.
Through counselling men can better understand how their bodies work and how they can improve their sexual performance and reduce their anxiety.