The Two Part Kiss Opener

In practice, the best way to learn how to approach women is by using the Indirect Approach early in the evening, and chatting up a bunch of different groups of people, even ones where you’re not really into the girls.

This generates social proof and the other women in the bar start to notice that you seem to be mister popular (and they notice these things!), and become more attracted to you. Later on in the evening, around midnight, I start using the Direct Approach a lot more, since many of the women in the bar will have noticed me already, and Direct Approach works a lot better late in the evening when people are getting a bit more drunk and wild.

The most important part of any opener is your body language. If you’re poised, relax and smooth when you open, you can open with anything. You can check out Cajun on Keys to the VIP if you want to see what good bodylanguage looks like in action.

My first kiss was like in march of 07 i remember too it was at my cousin gina's slumber/birthday party. it was her my other cousin sherry and me. she invited about six other guys over, she called them the party boys i dont know why but she did anyway gina hooked up with some guy as did sherry and after they had there moments i didnt think nothing would happen to me so i just stood talking to the other two guys that were around me and i noticed that one of the guys named pedro was watching me so i went to sit down on the wall and he went to sit with me and we just started flirting with each other and like out of nowhere i feel his arm around me. i had just looked at him and smiled and not even a minute later he turned me to face him again and asked if it was okay if he kissed me and of course i said it was fine.....so then we kissed.....i felt a little akward thougth cause i had no idea what the hell i was doing. but of course since then ive had my share of guys to know that he was kinda a bad kisser since he did nothing but put his tounge in my mouth and just move it from side to side and thats it.....well theres my story!! - Lea, 15, usa

The Direct Approach,,,,,

The disadvantages of the direct approach is that the girl has to decide up-front, based almost purely on your bodylanguage and looks, whether she likes you and wants to be receptive to your approach. It also can be awkward when there are friends around, and beautiful women are almost always with friends.

The Indirect Approach – The Indirect Approach is when you start up an “innocent” conversation with a woman, make her laugh a bit and basically act like you’re not that into her for the first few minutes. Basically what you’re doing here is baiting her to start hitting on you.

In practice, I usually use the Direct Approach when I think a girl already likes me. If I notice her check me out, or if a woman is just kind of lingering near me for a bit, I’ll immediately go direct and open with “You’re cute, what’s your name” or something similar. I also go direct when I’m on the dancefloor, and I’ll use it more often later in the night.
My first kiss was with someone called derrick. I am 11, I joined a secondryy school near me. My next door neighbour knew this lad calld ste; in her yr [[ 11 ]] and me and ste were friends. Then i got his msn addy and one night he went can my friend add you. But after 3 dayys he askedd me out considering he is like 14 and i am 11 i took 20min thinking time and said yes. Then 5 day after we went to loch park; with ste and my best mate, we stopped walking, and derrick looked at me, then just kissed me. I couldnt believe it, considering ste and my mate just stood there looking at us. Then we were just kissing all time. But then we went to loch park again this week; we ended up getting off [[ french kissing ]] I was so shocked; thought he wouldnt eva do that. Anyway we still together;; And wil be 4evaa---x - anonymous


There are a couple advantages to the indirect approach. The main one is that it gives you an opportunity to display some wit and charm before she decides whether she likes you, unlike direct game where she has to decided right away. The other big advantage is that you can win over her friends a lot easier using indirect game, and winning over her friends makes your job MUCH easier.