Engaging Her Emotions

Engaging her emotions is undoubtedly the most effective & commanding element of a first text message. When reading your first few messages the goal is to provoke her into experiencing the same feelings of attraction as she felt during your initial meeting.

An easy way to accomplish this is by referencing a subject from your first conversation together. By doing this you bring her back to that time with you and, in turn, bring up the positive feelings she felt in that moment.

If you begin where you left off your relationship will move along much faster pace.
Those positive feeling that you are stirring up are the very basis of her attraction to you (as well as you to her). It isn’t necessary to start over or to reconstruct her positive feeling towards you.

Note: If you got her number in a situation that didn’t allow for much time to talk or build a connection it is crucial that you put the techniques from Using Social Networking Sites into play to increase attraction & establish comfort.

Ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out 4 like 5 months. Everyone was pressuring us to do it! & I really wanted to and he did to but he just didn't have the nerve to do it because we have had like 5 chances to do it and he still didn't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So, finally he did it! Ok so our school was doing the play Annie and after the last performence of Saturday night we had a cast party. So of course we both went and so every one was dancing on the stage and 3 of my friends were like telling us and telling us to do it so out of no were he comes up infront of me, puts his arm around me and kisses me!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can never 4 get that moment. There is no other feeling like you have when u get your first kiss!!!!!! - 12, North Carolina, USA

Expressing love

My first kiss kind of sucked. So, there was this boy named Tyler at my school, and the only class we had together was 6th per. gym.

I got to know him pretty well over the 5 months we were in that class, and two days before school let out, we sort of asked each other out. It was awkward, and it didn't even seem like we were dating, haha, just better friends. We hugged a couple of times, and exchanged phone numbers, and then it was the last day of school!! We walked out of gym together, right after they announced it was SUMMER, and we were standing under this tree, and we hugged. Then, he pulled away, and leaned in and pecked me. God, it was so awkward. He said bye, and we turned around and walked different ways.

Haha, I saw my friend, Maddy, and I was like," Ew! Tyler just kissed me!" And she laughed and made fun of me. Then, I went to go tell my best friends, Lauren and Sophia, who totally freaked out. Yeah, I guess I don't really count it. People shouldn't date in Junior High anyways, that's my theory. - Maddie, Washinton, 13 (kiss at age 12)
To celebrate this wonderful day of expressing love, I’m sharing one of my favourite kissing scenes to write. It was a toss between the kiss in His Treasure and the one in A Valentine Challenge.

My first kiss was super romantic and sweet. I had been dating the guy a couple for a weeks and I was dying to kiss him. But I thought he didn't want to, so I pretty much gave up. One day after school, we went to house for the first time to hang out. But when we got there, he couldn't find his house key (he found the next day in the bottom of his backback :)

We went into the backyard and sat on a swing. I was freezing, so he sat a little closer. Slowly, without me really noticing, he edged closer and closer to me until his arm was around me. My heart was pounding like crazy, and my my mind went completely blank. I cuddled in closer and put my head on his collarbone (he smelled so sweet!) at this point neither of us was speaking.

I turned my head up a little bit at a time. And just when I was about to give up, he looked deep into my eyes. We both smiled and, at the same time, closed the 2 inches between us and kissed... The longest 10 seconds of my life, and the sweetest too. We kissed exactly 4 times, and then I said I had to go (my plan to keep him wanting more :P He said, "no, don't go" and tried to kiss me again, but I just touched his cheek and stood up. He walked my to where my parents picked me up. We dated for 8 months, and we went our own ways. But I will always remember that kiss... - Eva, Portland, OR