Lovelines
Why does couples, fiance or some dating young lovers often separate or divorce, is this always wrong?
Yinder
Aaah! This is very simple question but need a longer answer. The reason is far off infidelity and money. However, in brief, separation or divorce is cause by problems centered on lack of understanding (misunderstanding each other), respect, love, communication, friendship and threshing-out. So there are different attributes to the above as far as our community or society is concerned finance, adultery, fornication, selfishness, family problem, fighting, social-life, carelessness, forgetfulness, jealous, and childlessness are other causes. Compatibility, habit, and hiding behind religion, reliability, friend, and environment/society, all these among other things that do cause break-up in dating or marriage. In one of the future editions this will be explained in detail. However, marriage is like a cage; one sees the birds outside desperate to get in, and those inside desperate to get out.
So couples often split (separate) because of lack of trust, unfaithfulness, uncared and callousness, patience and above all dishonesty which can all be conquer if couples and young lovers can understand themselves. To conquer this there is need for dialogue among the two partners.
To avoid separation, break-up and divorce in any relationship lovers should see themselves as a partner not as a boss and apprentice. Relationship is not about battle but been there for each other at all time. However, it is not wrong to separate or divorce when the relationship is going sour but it is healthier if you can dialogue and find solution to the problem as this will make you avoid and overcome separation, break-up and divorce. Good luck!
I impregnated my girlfriend in absence of my wife
Lovelines,
I am a married man. Initially my wife was not staying with me because she was going to school. Then I got a girlfriend and unintentionally got her impregnated. She delivered of a baby girl. She informed me about this but I was very afraid to break the news to my family since then.
I am, however, taking care of the mother, child and still communicate with her on regular basis but without any intimacy, special attachment and nothing like romantic talk. My wife now stays with me and fully aware of this. But none of my family member knows anything about this for the past two years. What should I do? I am 31.
Mulsae
There is nothing much to do than to tell your parents about it and welcome your daughter home. Already the person you should afraid of knowing about this is your wife but she knows everything. So you do not need to hide it anymore from the family or your parents’ especially.
Don’t you know that your family deserves to know this earlier before any one else? Because they are the one to broker peace between you and your matrimonial wife and the mother of your daughter should there be any uprising on this issue. Sincerely it is not easy to say out but at this stage it is very easy.Failing to win a woman's heart doesn't mean you are some sort of failure,no.
But if you know you can’t keep two wives for now the same thing seeks for her advice on the need of bringing in your child. Whatever be your decision let the mother of your daughter know that you loves and admires her courage. In addition, your parents can not say you should not accept your blood or been ill-fated about your daughter because no one ever annoyed when you are multiplied either in progress, wealth and of course, family. Good luck!
